After an emotional week in which events in the U.S. seemed to have sent so many people reeling, both inside and outside the country, let’s take a deep cleansing breath and talk about fashion. Okay? Specifically about buying in haste. And having to repent the purchase at leisure.
But before we do, I must say to my many American readers, I’m with you. I couldn’t write my post this week without at least mentioning the elephant in the room. And even though I am not an American, and could not vote in your election, I was strongly affected by the outcome. Not directly, of course, but certainly emotionally.
Given the statements I made here during the 2016 American election, and the pandemic, as well as the 2015 Canadian election, long time readers will probably know that I have strongly held political beliefs. I just rarely talk about them on my blog.
I was raised to take my responsibility as a citizen seriously, especially when it comes to voting, and I have never, ever not voted in an election since I was a teenager. In fact, I still miss the election night phone calls I always made to my stepfather wherein, no matter how late it was, we would discuss election results.
Oddly enough my beliefs were born, not from listening to the adults in my life, but from watching political events on television when I was twelve. If you’re Canadian, you might guess the event that took place in 1968 which inspired me. My mum, who worked at the time as a civil servant for the provincial government in New Brunswick, never discussed politics with us. New Brunswick was famous for its “pork barrel politics.” And Mum was very circumspect about espousing political beliefs in case it might have an effect on her job. In fact we never knew how she cast her vote.
I clearly remember Mum coming home one night back in 1969 after my soon-to-be stepfather Lloyd proposed and asking me how I would feel if they got married. I countered by asking her if she knew where he stood politically. She didn’t, but I winkled it out of him the next time he visited.
My stepfather had strongly held small “l” liberal beliefs around social justice, equality, and the responsibility of the government to look after the weakest in our country. This despite the fact that he was small “c” conservative in every other aspect of his life. I learned a lot from him on how one value does not necessarily cancel out the other. I think many people who knew Lloyd and how he lived his life would be surprised at how strongly he felt about social justice, and how “progressive” his political leanings were. I mean he appeared to be the picture of rural steadfastness and conservative economic practices. But deep down he was a liberal through and through.
And to go off on a slight tangent, while I have the same long-held and strong opinions as Lloyd around social justice, I have to admit that I did not learn from his example when it came to spending money. In fact I was in my late twenties before I learned the value of wise economic practices. Hubby had some influence there by encouraging me to invest the little I had leftover from my meagre paycheque when I was first teaching. The secret was having the money taken directly off my paycheque. That way I never saw it and was not tempted to spend it. Clever Hubby.
But once I made decent money and had enough left over to shop for quality fashion, I did. Several spendy years followed. Ha. In fact I wrote a post a while ago about those indulgent years. You can read that here if you’re interested.
But, you know, even during my spendy, indulgent shopping years, I was a careful shopper. I always researched trends, surveyed my wardrobe, and planned my purchases. I shopped for as high a quality as I could afford. Buying in haste was not something I did. And as a result I rarely ever regretted my purchases.
Which brings me to the stated topic of this post. It seems highly ironic to me that in a year when I cut my clothing shopping down drastically, when I aimed to buy only five new pieces, I found myself making uncharacteristic mistakes. Mistakes that I should NOT have made. Out of six new pieces I came to regret two. That is not good, people. One third of my new pieces are things I realized I didn’t love, and kind of wish I had not bought.
The first piece I regret is the cream, military-style jacket which I bought in Fredericton last spring. My friend Debbie and I were out for lunch and a bit of shopping on my last day in Fredericton in March. I saw the jacket. I bought it. I flew home with it the next day. And I berated myself for weeks about buying in haste. As I said in this “Rule of Five” update video, I like the jacket, but I don’t love it. I like it better now that I have swapped out the cheap-looking buttons. But I still can’t say that I love that jacket. Not in the way that I love my old Max Mara pant suit, or my even older camel Adrienne Vittadini blazer. Why, oh why, did I waste one of my precious five things on something I didn’t love? Hasty buying, that’s why.
The other piece I regret is a pair of grey trousers from Uniqlo.
These were bought when I was struggling to decide what to wear to my niece’s wedding in June. I shopped my closet and had an outfit all planned, but I needed a pair of slim, cropped trousers to go with the black summer blazer and silky top and heels I wanted to wear. I put off and put off looking and, despite my planning, found myself buying in haste. I was relieved to find these Smart Ankle Pants at Uniqlo. But when I tried them on with the rest of the outfit the day before we left for New Brunswick, I realized that the long black jacket and grey flannel-looking trousers looked dreadful together. The proportions were all wrong. I looked like a customs official at the airport. Or a cranky librarian. Too serious by half. I scrambled to cobble together something else. And in fact ended up wearing my old navy Max Mara suit on the day.
I never did return the Uniqlo trousers. I didn’t have time before we left for New Brunswick. And when we came home I couldn’t find the receipt. So I stuck them back in the closet and told myself I’d find a way to wear them for the fall.
Which is what I did the other day. I tried on the grey trousers with a variety of outfit ideas to see if I would repent at leisure my buying them in haste. Turns out that I don’t need to repent after all. Phew.
But it was a close run thing for a while.
Let me explain. Because burgundy and grey is making such a statement this season, Outfit #1 consisted of the grey pants, my Akris burgundy sweater, and my burgundy Paul Green chunky loafers. Ewww. Like the ill-fated wedding outfit, this one was too solemn, too boring, too much like serious businesswear. Outfit #1 did not even merit a photograph.
Next I swapped the loafers for my Veja sneakers, and the burgundy sweater for my chunky grey and cream cropped Vince turtleneck. See first photo above. Outfit #2 was a success. I wore it that day for my flu-shot appointment. I wore the white tee shirt underneath, so I could take the sweater off to get my shot, but I actually ended up liking the tee shirt peeping out under the sweater. And let’s not forget the big grey tote bag from All Saints that I dug out of my storage drawer. I knew there was a reason I didn’t get rid of that bag. I haven’t used it for a couple of years, but big, squashy totes are everywhere this season.
Outfit #3 consisted of my black Stuart Weitzman loafers, my darker grey Theory turtleneck and my cream ultra-light down jacket from Uniqlo. This outfit should have worked, but didn’t. The photo above makes it look much better than it did in reality. The shoes are too slim, too tidy to balance off the short jacket and sweater. I looked top heavy. My chunky boots would look better.
For outfit #4 I swapped the black loafers for my Stuart Weitzman black ankle boots. And wore, instead of the slimmer grey Theory turtleneck, a looser black, more oversized one from Aritzia. I really like this outfit. Especially since I offset all the grey and black with my cognac Fossil shoulder bag and the orange woven scarf I bought in Ireland in 2011. And I love those pattered black and grey socks from Simons. I am really having fun with socks now that the weather has turned cooler.
Outfit #5 was a bit of a wild card. But turns out I liked it the best. It may not be to your taste, but I felt great in this. Casual, comfortable, and a bit quirky. Mostly because of the cream socks that I decided to wear at the last minute. I have a pair of grey and cream wool socks, but instead I decided to try the white socks trend. And I love the geeky look of the soft cream cable-knit socks from Uniqlo with my sneakers and grey pants. The vintage bowtie brooch and the cream vintage bag were a last minute brainwave.
I bought the cream leather 1950s vintage bag a couple of weeks ago at Bellwether’s Vintage. I love it. The structured shape, the brass hardware, the satisfying click it makes when I close it. It immediately reminded me of the Polène Paris bags. Only with a much smaller price tag, and a much longer provenance. Ha. If you are in Ottawa you must check out Bellwether’s Vintage on Florence Street. They have lovely things. And shopping there is a hoot. You can follow them on Instagram here.
So, that concludes my grey trouser try-on session. Five possible outfits that resulted in three I will definitely wear. I guess that means while I may have bought the grey trousers in haste, I am not repenting them at leisure. And I am effectively cutting in half the number of new pieces I regret buying this year. So that’s a win. And who knows, maybe I will fall in love with the regretful white jacket next spring. We’ll see.
Stay tuned in the next month or so for a fulsome review of my “Rule of Five” experience. What I bought, what I learned, where I failed, and whether I will take up the challenge again next year.
I know that talking about fashion and outfits this week may be construed as frivolous and shallow. That burying my head in my closet may be construed as equivalent to burying my head in the sand. But as I said above, it’s not that I don’t have opinions. It’s not that I don’t follow world events, or educate myself about important current issues. It’s just that this blog is not a political forum. Nor a space where I am interested in arguing about politics. But sometimes, like this week, I do feel obliged to express my views, however briefly. I empathize with American voters who are devastated by Tuesday’s election results. Because I was devastated too. Even though I can’t vote in your country, nor have any effect on what happens there.
I’ll close with wishing everyone well. Hope you have a great weekend filled with distractions that can make you forget your anxiety even if only for a few days. Don’t underestimate the value of a good closet rummage followed by a cup of tea and a gentle read. And hugs from your loved ones.
P.S. If it angers you that, as a Canadian, I am not “staying in my own lane” as I was accused in one post back in 2016, I’m sorry about that. If you want to wade in on your own feelings in the comments do so. But please be respectful of the feelings of others. I reserve to right to delete rude and insulting comments.
P.P.S. Some of the pieces I’m wearing in this post are still available and I have included shopping links in the post. If you make a purchase after clicking my link I will earn a commission which helps to pay for the blog. If you want to support my blog without shopping, you can always buy me a coffee. 🙂
127 thoughts on “Buying in Haste, Repenting at Leisure”
I am grateful for your expression of sympathy for the results of the U.S. election. I have resolved to try to be a kinder person to counterbalance the hate and division. I also think we have to take a good hard look at ourselves and why some people feel left out of our country’s prosperity.
Now to the more mundane. I really appreciate your post about your grey pants because I have been looking for a pair. I probably won’t buy any because the only ones I would be happy with would be lightweight wool with a lightweight lining. (Now that I’m older unlined wool is too itchy for my skin.) Such a pair, if I could find it, would no doubt carry a hefty price tag. Black or cream pants in relatively inexpensive fabrics can look great but grey is tricky! So I think I’ll stick with cream, black and jeans. Unless by some miracle . . . !
Looking to ourselves and what we can do is the best way to deal with any situation over which we have little control, I believe.
About pants… good dress pants are so hard to find.
❤️ thank you for your support, concern and kind words for those of us who are struggling with the election results. IMHO, you are absolutely in the correct lane, the results of the election and the President have impact globally, just as other countries, their leaders, policies and (current) issues and conflicts have an effect on ‘us.’ It can be a small and very intertwined world.
I have always found both comfort and purpose in trying to live my life with ‘hope is that thing with feathers . . . .’ Persistent despite of and through the storms.
Love your outfits, very smart and reflect your personality and style. Shine on.
Thanks, Michelle. As our former Prime Minister said back in the seventies, living next door to the U.S. is a bit like sleeping with an elephant. We are affected by every twitch.
Very nice comments. Thank you.
A friend of mine told me that she didn’t think non-citizens of the U.S. like yourself (who thus can’t vote in the U.S.) should be expressing their opinions about U.S. politics. I reminded her that this is still a free country! So yes, opine away! If someone doesn’t want your opinion, they are free to skip over it.
I love your phrase “burying my head in my closet.” I think that is an excellent way to relieve anxiety and take one’s mine off politics. I enjoy your musings as you go through the trial and error of making an errant purchase work out for the better. Thank you!
I appreciate your comments and concerns about the US elections. I am grieving for my country and feel overwhelmed at what is to come. I keep thinking perhaps I can move to Canada! 🙂 The rest of your post is delightful and I have enjoyed the 5 purchases this year. I might give it a try next year.
I have thought about moving to Canada too. Dark clouds hovering I’m afraid.
Thanks, Angie. My husband is currently watching political shows on television. Think I must head back to the closet. Ha.
I actually like the ‘stay in your own lane’ comments, only because it’s something I say to family and friends in jest quite often. But in this context? No.
It does have an impact on all of us, even if we have no right to vote. (And from Australia, I can imagine an even more robust ‘stay in your lane.’)
Also flippantly, I’m a little bit chuffed that I can still make silly fashion mistakes at my age. They’re not earth shattering mistakes, just I should have known better mistakes. Maybe next time.
I think it’s a great expression too. Implies that one wrong swerve can have devastating effects. But one can still articulate one’s thoughts from one’s own lane. Like a friendly wave for someone to merge, maybe. Or am I taking the metaphor too far?
P.S. Like you, I’m chuffed that I still love fashion so much at my age.
Staying in your own lane…such a passive-aggressive comment to make. On your own blog you say what you like. And on other people’s you can decide whether to wade in or read and shut up, surely the basis of the free speech. Nothing comes consequence-free. Personally, I like the grey trousers and I think you will wear them more than you first imagined.
Well said, Annie. I read a lot of stuff I don’t agree with but choose not to comment. I imagine there will be some consequences for expressing my opinion no matter how weakly. I’ll no doubt lose subscribers. But the way to avoid that is to stay muzzled in my own space.
Annie, thx for referring to the passive aggressive nature of the phrase ‘stay in your lane’. I get such a strong negative reaction to that phrase. Who has the right to tell me I shouldn’t be interested in anything, or have opinions about anything. (To be clear, I am not advocating gossip and mean spiritedness. I am talking about people who use that phrase to diminish us, to constrain us. I bristle whenever I hear/read it!).
And this week, feeling despondent, this Canadian focused on going through my dad’s papers that were stored in the garage for the past decade since he passed away. Engrossing, bittersweet, captivating. And I could forget about the outside world for 3 days.
Every word of support and empathy brings me closer to healing. Thank you! I have been unable to watch the news, and surprisingly, scrolling outfit combinations and making new combos from my closet is soothing/grounding.
Yes, our election will have global impact…..all understanding voices make a positive difference!
Thank you Faith. And you’re welcome.
Faith. I was devastated by the election and its global impact. Especially my friends in Ukraine. As a Canadian I can only imagine how overwhelming it must be for like minded people in the US. Yes tv news is going to be off for a long time and spending time sorting out my closet sounds like a good idea.
Some greens are lovely with grey.
Good idea, Lise. I must try the monochrome grey look under my bright green MM coat.
Thank you for your thoughtfulness. I agree with Faith. I’ve been unable to read the news since the Election, and your words of kindness and support mean so much. It’s nice to know we may not be a majority, but we are not alone. And I also agree that it is grounding to read about your strategic approach to outfits. I have similar issues with Uniqlo pants. I love shopping there for basics. I really do. But their clothing can be blocky, and it’s hard to get the proportions right. Thank you again. I really enjoy your blog.
That’s it exactly. I’ve had really good luck with Uniqlo cashmere or merino sweaters, tee shirts, and down jackets etc. But getting a good fit is not as tricky with a top as it is with pants.
I appreciate your comments. At least I know I am not alone. I have cried every day since the election. I am so sad for my grandchildren they will not know the country I grew up in. I have enjoyed following your purchases this year and think all the outfits you have shown today look great!
You’ve expressed my feelings exactly. I’m almost 85, and I’m devastated by the election. I enjoy ‘High Heels in the Wilderness,’ which inspires me in my clothing choices.
Thanks, Meg and Fran. 🙂
I have cried too. And I could cry now over your comment “they will not know the country I grew up in.”
Thank you for your comments, Sue, and your reply, Meg. I have felt so deflated and discouraged, not because a Republican won, but because apparently, racism, misogyny and insults are now perfectly acceptable behaviour for our leaders and we, their supporters.
My husband is a dual citizen, born in the US, and as he says “I no longer recognize the country I grew up in.” And increasingly, I see some of my fellow Canadians adopting similar rhetoric and behaviours and a lack of trust in the public institutions which govern public life in Canada. And now, what can we do as individuals to counteract this division and anger?
As an American I thank you for your kindness and empathy.
You’re welcome, Anne.
Thank you for another great “fashion” blogpost but thank you more for your lovely words about the recent election disaster. I’m an 84 year old grandmother with two granddaughters in college. I’m so afraid for their futures and also that of my 16 year old grandson.I live in an affluent Connecticut coastal town….a red town in a blue state. I know people (friends even) who overlooked all the misogynistic, racist, xenophobic red flags and voted in favor of their assets. We’ll see how that ends up. We are the laughing stock of the world and this maniac now also owns the Supreme Court and Congress. Onward into the closet!!!!!
Providing wise counsel for the young people in one’s life is more important than ever, isn’t it?
We are a global society, inter-related. I appreciate knowing your thoughts, as it reminds us that our decisions have world-wide ripples (or tsunamis). About fashion, one of my biggest buying issues is knowing how much an item might stretch. Most of my buying mistakes are because I guessed wrong, and the item becomes either too baggy in the seat or stays a smidge too tight.
Case in point…jeans that bag out at the knees and shrink at the waist. 🙂
I am very unhappy with the result of the election. The worst is the feeling of doom I feel–again! I suffered through the first 4 years and now feel the same or even worse sense of dread for the next 4 years. Thanks for your thoughts. now onto the wardrobe situation. I knew when you bought that cream jacket that you were not really in love with it. I even asked if you should return it? If you wear it someday and someone compliments you on how nice it is, you might learn to love it! I make fashion mistakes all the time. I buy too much and then donate it. Waste of money! I will try to be more like you in the future. (although only 5 things a year is too little)
I remember, Linda. I think if I had bought it a week before I flew home, I’d have returned it. The worst thing is that it is one of only five items. If it had been a normal year I’d not have worried so much. But then again if it had been a normal year I’d have been shopping more frequently and probably not fallen for the jacket so precipitously. 🙂
I think you have just identified the problem: setting such a restrictive goal for yourself seems a little extreme. As you say, if you’d been shopping more, you wouldn’t have succumbed.
Love the closet rummage…good advice for a devastating week. As I said to my husband, it appears that the values of character and truth we grew up with are no longer relevant to a majority of our fellow citizens. Makes me sad. Like others, I have stopped reading the news this week. And like you, I find my closer and reading a good book to be good distractions.
*closet*
I think what has upset me the most is the bullying tactics and the utter lack of civility which many people ignored. Character means little, it seems.
I try to be empathetic and understand why people vote against what are their interests and what seems obvious to us. I have friends who have PhDs who don’t understand how the economy works on many levels and have absurd misapprehensions about their own taxes. I have arguments with them to try to clear up simple factual matters. It’s easy for me to see how people with less education and time and under massive economic stress can be persuaded to jump on a disastrous bandwagon.
What really terrifies me, for our own politics and our next election, which is going to be terrifying for a thinking person, there’s no way around it, is the loss of civil discourse. What you are talking about with Lloyd is a period in which communitarian impulses and experience but also reasoned, civil discourse reigned. My grandfather, who also grew up a farmer before the war, was a steadfast Grit his whole life. When he studied and eventually became a professor of agricultural economics he never wavered, and his support of the Ls continued because his belief in a version of community never did. That said, we’ve been lucky in Canada for so many decades because whether Grit or Tory, governments mostly understood that in Canada you have to govern in the middle. I always think it goes back to (or at least did) a more compressed income distribution than south of the border. You knew what it was like to be your neighbour because you were not far away from their vantage point. I grew up in multicultural Toronto and that remained true. I was too young for Trudeaumania with the senior, but I remember arguing about Joe Clark and PT on the playground when I was nine years old. Everyone in the family read newspapers and discussed politics in a serious manner. Civic engagement was taught as a value to live by. I never once felt constrained to vote other than with my conscience and my own reason, which I always have done down to the last election and taken very seriously. I mourn for those honestly who never knew this type of understanding and I mourn for all of us who will have to bear the results. I’m utterly frightened, to tell the truth, but patience young grasshopper!
You’ve done a great job with your outfits. I’ve tried to give Uniqlo a chance but I’ll admit I can’t. Too much polyester and everything made in China. I feel depressed when I go in that store in the RC. You’ve styled the pants very well though. Like the vintage purse, too.
Thanks for weighing in, Stephanie. I remember schoolyard discussions about Liberals versus Conservatives when I was in junior high. Especially about provincial politics when Richard Hatfield was Premier of New Brunswick. Ah, the good old days. 🙂
It seems so innocent now…
On another note, just wanted to come back to apologize for my remark about Uniqlo, which wasn’t designed to make you feel bad! I just tend to be very outspoken and plainspoken (I work with only men at the moment so if I want to be heard…), but I think in this climate it warrants going an extra step to just be kind (as your first poster so wisely stated.
Funny you should pop back, Stephanie. I just double-checked the pieces I own from Uniqlo earlier this morning as to content. I own a couple of Uniqlo sweaters, one is 100% cashmere and one 100% wool. But I was surprised to find that a Uniqlo tee shirt I have is only 70% cotton, with 30% polyester. Oops. Next time I’ll stick to Everlane shirts which are 100% cotton. Good to have something to prompt me to do that, I think. So thanks. 🙂
That makes sense! I was in there a week ago and I think I spent too much time in the rows of base layers and tops. Interestingly I read recently that the woman who made Meghan Markle’s wedding dress has taken up a gig with Uniqlo, for a change. I think I’m the only person in the world who didn’t love MM’s wedding gown on her frame in particular, but it’s an interesting bit of trivia.
Love your description of your stepfather. And clever Hubby!
I’m even more distant from US than you are,but everything will have effects on us,too
Would wear outfits #2 and #4
It seems that mistakes are more common when we downsize our shopping,I second that-maybe we are trying more to make compromises and it ends….well,compromised?
Dottoressa
You are so smart. I’ll bet that’s it. I will hence forth reserve purchases for “loved” pieces. Although my search for something for a specific event did not do me any favours.
Thank you for your thoughtful comments about the election. It feels as if the bullies are winning around the world. I’m devastated.
I agree. We have a “bully” gathering steam in Canada as well.
I am devasted too, Laura.
As always I enjoyed your post and appreciate your comments on the election. As one in the minority in my little social group it is so gratifying to hear from someone who understands the concept of think before you act.
My friends are all about “party” while I choose to paraphrase Martin Luther King and say I don’t judge people by the color of their party but by the content of their character.
That is a great way to paraphrase King. Character seems to mean little.
Thank you for your kind words of sympathy and the fashion distraction.
I like all of your outfits, but understand that you need to feel comfortable and like yourself in your clothes. That is something I am struggling with lately; nothing seems quite right. And, although, I would say I don’t really like gray, as it was the color of the uniform I wore in high school (along with pink blouses), I do have several gray pieces in my wardrobe, including a pant suit from working days that I now wear mostly for funerals. You have inspired me to pull out the pants this week for a lecture downtown and find a top to compliment them.
Dress pants with a soft sweater is one of my favourite combinations. Enjoy your lecture, Nancy.
I think you have every right to voice your opinion on US politics. Especially when the new president has promised huge tariffs on imports. That will affect a lot of people worldwide. Thank you for expressing your empathy for those of us in shock and mourning.
I enjoy your blog and style of writing.
Thanks, Valeri. 🙂
I’m too sick at heart to write much more than my deepest appreciation for your kind, understanding words. It’s a devastating outcome for the US and the world. History is tragically repeating itself. Those who have caused it will only find this out when it’s too late.
Thanks, Elizabeth. 🙂
I always appreciate your well-written, thoughtful posts, and admire your clothing-buying restraint – something which I am trying to emulate. I seem to be the lone blog reader who couldn’t be happier with the recent election results – and I say that as a woman who cares deeply about family, friends, and country. I see a plethora of people comforting themselves with the notion that conservative voters are uneducated and uninformed – my family includes two attorneys, one retired CEO, one masters level educator, and the rest all college graduates. It’s a mistake to generalize. We can agree to disagree and won’t heal as a nation until that happens. If you’re on the other side of the aisle and grieving right now, I empathize – my family and I went through the same range of sadness and despair 4 years ago. God Bless America.
This is a very reasonable post and the tone is very civil. You make a valid point that many red voters are college-educated (I think the split was about 42% of those with a college degree voted for Trump). It’s also statistically true that a significantly larger share of college educated voters voted for the other side (and the reverse among those without a degree). Education isn’t everything and doesn’t always indicate better preparation to vote, but it does raise red flags that voters may have unrealistic expectations about what the proposed policies of the president-elect might mean for low income voters. This is a concern that can be supported with reasoning and evidence with respect to what these types of policies do (e.g. tariffs, specific types of tax cuts, etc.). I’m speaking as a professional economist and statistician so whatever you think of my perspective that’s my lens.
Thank you, Tess, for your comment. You are correct about generalization. My farmer stepfather was not well educated. But he read widely and was always, always interested in what happened in the wider world. I think that some of his liberal political beliefs were founded in Italy during World War II. I can’t be sure of this because the war was something he rarely discussed.
Tess, Thank you for sharing your feelings. I agree with your comments & my family sounds similar to yours. As a moderate conservative I pray for more peace, unity & civility not only in the US but around the world. We are also hopeful for lower inflation & a stronger economy.
I guess I am the second person who is thankful that we will have our country back. Four more years like the past four and the USA would not be recognizable.
I just can’t understand people saying they will “have our country back.” Do you not see that roughly 50% of the country disagrees with your vote? It’s not like this election is going to magically fix whatever it is you thought was broken. None is going back to the fictional time you seem to imagine. Look at the four years of Trump’s previous administration. Divided government is the way the US has always worked. It’s a pendulum and it will swing back.
You’ve just lost me.
When I come to a fashion blog I don’t come to read about the blogger’s political views, especially a Canadian’s view on American politics. Find another platform to air your views.
No matter how much a person hates Trump, she was not and is not qualified.
FYI Georgia. This is not strictly a fashion blog. But having said that I can see you’d be surprised to read a political view when the post was supposed to be about fashion. But, you know, my blog, I pay to publish it, my rules.
You are right, Sue.
Bravo! This expressed desire to control others thoughts, bodies and words is so presumptuous.
Ceci
What I love about your posts is they are not always fashion. I love when you write about books and happy you gave your opinion on the election.
But it’s her blog. Surely she can say whatever she chooses. Although I’m a newer reader, I’ve seen plenty of posts here that weren’t strictly about fashion.
Canada is and has been very affected by what happens south of our borders and there are many world wide who are going to be changed by recent events. In the past week there have been many thousands of inquiries regarding moving to our country. Sue is absolutely allowed to express her opinions on her own blog and I feel she was very restrained in her writing. If someone does not agree with a blogger, they are within their own right to leave for another day, not tear to shreds a persons own thoughts.
As for the fashion, I love the cream sweater with the grey pants. I have a problem with the 5 items this year, and think I was overthinking each purchase instead of going with just ‘ do I love it or not’ . Next year may be 7 items, or not, will rethink. I have much closet diving to do first.
Yes, I think this is something that sometimes Americans don’t understand about the rest of the world, and particularly Canada. We’re especially yoked to what they do and if the president-elect carries out some of his campaign promises, e.g., tariffs, the results could be devastating for the Canadian economy. I worry even more about the impacts on global conflicts given the president-elect’s declared relationship with authoritarians worldwide (e.g., Orban, not to mention Putin) and lack of support for NATO. It’s perfectly reasonable for all to be concerned and to express this worry.
Thank you, Stephanie! Your cogent comments are so much appreciated. I am too emotional to be a good debater of political views about which I feel strongly. I should just post your comments and follow it up with “ditto” or “what she said!” 🙂
Thanks, Sue. Don’t want to intervene too much and was worried it would bother you, but I think civil discourse everywhere and anytime is healthy.
I agree, Stephanie, and value your expressing your opinion here.
Hello there, sorry for not having wrote before although I am still reading you.
To my shame, I must say that your post offers me a kind of”tribune” to express some feelings about the US election, from my perspective as a french lady BUT not all french of course.
I wanted to scream, to wrote on the US forums I follow “How could you”!!
But then I thought that was a bit too much.
The voters in the US have made a choice and who I am to really really understand and get a prefect grasp of US american minds.
Especially as in Europe and in my country we are currently meeting the same kind of political issues but less the “hateful” and dreadful (in my opinion) MAGA.
But I will make sure to fight and battle always for my ideas, my ideal till I can breath and express my mind: yes I am willing to be the cranky old lady with strong opinion and I don’t care.
And it is the time that I think that I am very very happy that I did not sprout any child (again my words, my opinion).
I do think that the so called american dream died decades ago, and not because of politics but because of the people.
So, during the hours after the regretful results (which yes do impact all the world as USA still want to be nosey and rule the world…in a way, no matter what the others are in a shitty situation because of that…), I spent some time in my closet and started my seasonal swap over. And decided to, again, dispose of clothes that I bought by mistake, again.
Like the beautiful, high quality italian scratchy wool trousers (why, oh why do they do trousers this way?), the, alas, too narrow at the hips elegant and spendy italian grey wool skirt (no my hips are not going to reverse to their size when I was 20….), the beautiful fine black wool work trousers that I don’t and can’t wear ever (I don’t want to wear that kind of trousers, although I still kept 2).
Instead I bought … shoes, italian shoes to be honest. That is my weakness, shoes.
I bought them on a second hand website, well know in Europe, Vinted where you can find treasures and …scraps.
And brand new italian shoes at a fraction of their “new” price.
Lots of Max Mara in excellent condition for the record.
But even there, I make mistake still when I buy.
I’ve been lurking a light orange wool coat for a while, classic in shape and I might bit the bullet.
Now I must go to start cleaning the house as I do every sunday afternoon.
Thank you for being there.
I appreciate your thoughts. Thank you.
I envy your your collection of Max Mara, Eve. 🙂
Thank you for your words of comfort. It’s been devastating to see Harris, who I voted for, lose. This election has world wide implications!
I’m with you, Cathy.
I tend to react to people’s behaviour as well as their policies. I thought Harris conducted herself extremely well, with intelligence and humour. I felt bad when she was insulted so harshly by the Republican Vice-Presidential nominee.
Love your blog- all of it. Personally, I am doing a fast from news and from engaging in any dialogue. But I appreciate everyone’s emotions.
I would love to hear how you fit your 5 purchases into a clothing budget ( or maybe you don’t and that’s valuable info, too). I tried 10 pieces this year and more than half I regret because they were bought on sale. Ugh.
I think I’ll join you in fasting, Cindy. Time to cool down a bit.
I jotted down your points so I can address them in my wrap-up later next month. Thanks.
Outfit #4 is my favorite. You wear it well! And thank you for your comments and concern concerning our American election. I am in the “devastated” group, which seems to be peopled by many older women and then some young women.
Thanks, Linda. 🙂
Cranky librarian? Never!
Ha. I should not have said that, you know. I have friends who are librarians and they are very stylish and hardly ever cranky. 🙂
I join the chorus in thanking you for your kind words and saying how deeply sad and troubled I am about the American election results. We have long been a country divided politically, but it seems that our fellow citizens have doubled down on those divisions, putting many at real risk, which makes it hard to see a united future. I hope this is the grieving process talking. Time will tell. In any case, it’s a good chance to let you know how much I enjoy your thoughts and stories, your fashion, and every other kind of talk. Keep being your curious, transparent, authentic self. This is your house. Needless to say, I will be leaning into these moments of refuge as we move into a very uncertain future. You are a port in the storm and I appreciate it.
Thanks so much. What a lovely comment. 🙂
I fell in love with your black pleated skirt finally found one. Wore it to a party last week, it was windy and chilly, bad choice, it was like standing outside with nothing on. Going to have to wear tights under it, lol
I second your thoughts on the election except you are way more polite than I
Oh dear. My black pleated skirt is faux leather, though. So would probably be well suited for a big wind. 🙂
I am traumatized—not more I can say. I will hibernate from all political discourse. Thank you for the wonderful and thoughtful content you consistently give us. Love how you put outfits together, as well as your rationale behind each. I tried to follow the 5-item rule this year, but failed miserably, and worse yet, I don’t quite like some of what I bought. I blame the stress of the election. Will try to do better next year. Keep encouraging us to shop our closets.
Thanks, Elisa. I’m kind of excited to do my year-ed wrap-up. I’ve failed too in keeping it to five new pieces.
Sue, thank you for your informed, kind, and supportive words for us here in the U.S. I am flabbergasted by the election and did not even dream it could happen. I and many people I know are bracing ourselves for what comes next. It’s a sad time here. As far as your expressing your opinion on your own blog, bring it on! What happens has in this country has the possibility to impact the entire world; I don’t think a lot of our citizens fully appreciate that. I’m trying to avoid the news and just figure out how to get by for the next four years.
On to fashion, you look so good in those sweaters! Your hair against those colors is so pretty. I appreciate your “confessions” about regretting purchases. And I liked your saying why items didn’t work together in terms of proportions. I learned something today.
Thanks, Judith. Just trying to be honest but also keep it civil. That’s easier for me when I write than when I’m ranting at the television. Ha.
Thank you for your kind words. Coming from the very blue Washington State, I guess I was very shocked to see that we are so opposite with 3/4ths of the US. I have been reading commentaries to try to see why this happened. I recommend opinion pieces by David Brooks, who had one on how we need to retool our education system to address the angry issues of young American males. Especially, he advocates bringing back respect for vocational programs. Heather Cox Richardson had a great one hour interview with John Stewart explaining the historical, political crossroad the US is at. As a retired history teacher, I found her thoughts to be very enlightening. As always, I love your fashion and am trying to be more mindful of my shopping.
There are a lot of good sources of information out there, aren’t there. As a retired history and Phys.Ed. teacher my husband decries the ability of most people to distinguish between fact and opinion.
I’m a long way from the USA but I too was upset by the outcome, and sad that a person of low integrity will be president for 4 more years. I wasn’t surprised this time though, unlike in 2016, when I couldn’t believe the outcome. I’ve learned that my impossible isn’t everyone’s. I’m choosing to stay positive and to help others where I can.
As for the grey pants, I have a pair of grey denim jeans. I go in cycles with them. I wear them a lot, then not much. I have to be in the right mood for mid-grey trousers. Thanks for your styling advice, which I will shamelessly copy. I too love outfit 5, and that bag is a winner!
Good idea, Maria. Stay positive and help others can be a way through.
Love your post and we are not supposed to always stay in our own lane as you so eloquently put it. We cannot help but have an opinion about what happens right next door to Canada. I was on all the U-Tube posts which predicted Kamala all the way. What a shock on election night. I had to email my cousin in Michigan to commiserate with her (a loyal Dem for ever). She said she was “sick”. I know she did not mean that physically. I know she meant it emotionally. Well, here in Canada many of us are sick as well. Sick of a felon being allowed to run for Presidential Office. What has happened to the American judicial system??? Well, we all wonder that don’t we. And Sue do not be so hard on yourself about your fashion picks. The pictures look great to me and I just finished a closet rummage as well and storing away summers. Good bye summer. Good bye peace of mind.
I agree with Georgia. There are many reasons why former President Trump was reelected. So many people in the US are hurting financially, and the Sovereignty of our Country was not maintained by President Biden, who obviously has had cognitive issues. The Democrats performed a coup ousting President Biden. Granted the Constitution doesn’t address political processes but there are rules in each Party. What happened to President Biden wasn’t very “democratic”. The Democrats do anything to stay in power as the American people just witnessed. And Vice President Harris was one of the most unqualified presidential candidates to run in my opinion.
I absolutely agree.
I cannot understand comments on this blog. If you live in the USA you know the major issues we are facing.
inflation, unsecured borders , increased crime and yes they threw Biden out and put Harrus in. Harris paid millions for stars to come to her events and support her. Now her campaign is millions in debt. Just what is so devestating???
I do not get it. There is a reason Trump won by a landslide both popular vote and electoral college. People don’t like what’s happening in the USA right now. Trump was president 4 years and we had a great economy and life….until covid.
I’m praying it all improves now.
I too feel some buyers remorse after buying without carefully considering my needs this year. I purchased three items for vacation this year in haste when I could have used another similar items already in my closet. I do like how you styled the outfits above particularly #3. I think your efforts made the purchase a good one. That’s a relief isn’t it?!
I will close saying that it is your right as it is your space to voice your opinion. I appreciate your inclusiveness to your readers to express their thoughts as well and your offer of support to those in need of community. As an American, I believe in our process and am hopeful as I believe in my country. So many of our candidates: local, state and national did not appeal to me. The negativity and the lack of substance in policy, character and leadership of all these candidates was tiring, depressing and sad. I cast my vote as I always do…..never a straight party ticket and focusing on issues.
I respect that we all have different opinions and my neighbors may not have voted as I did but they are still my neighbors and tomorrow if they need my help I will certainly give it. Just my two cents.
Thanks, Kat. Well said.
Well I do find it interesting that so many assume that a well educated person couldn’t possibly be a conservative and must be distraught. I also am one of the few not devastated by the election results but more devastated by the choices we had to pick from. I have always expected that individuals would be expected to care for the elderly and less fortunate not the government. I pay them with my taxes to defend the country and enforce society rules and then I’d love for them to stay out of my business. We had no good choices this election but I am hopeful that maybe someday we will and until then I will do my best to take care of those around me and live me life in a way I hope my family will be proud. I think it is a mistake to rely on the government to do that for me. So I will do the best with the choice the country has made just like I did last election and so on.
Wow, Sue, if you only regret buying one item this year, I would consider that a big win! Well done! I wish I could say the same. Thanks for another interesting and thoughtful article.
Thanks, Marcie.
I think I would have liked Lloyd.
Thanks. 🙂
Count me among the gutted here in US. It’s curious that people who insist others should stay in some “lane” they have constructed to restrict freedom of expression are often the same people who wish to insert their religious beliefs into a government that is for all Americans.
As for Harris being too inexperienced, perhaps one should compare her years of public service to Trump’s absolute lack in 2016. It’s telling that a majority of those in his administration with vast political experience recognized he had no business being sent back to the White House.
Thank you, Sue, for your kind words and for this diversion.
Thanks for saying that, Sarah. I am trying to refrain from specifics in the discussion. But I agree with you.
Oh Sue! Thank you for willingly expressing your views on our election. Last week I was so incredibly sad and stunned. I’m 66 years old and feel like I’ve been transported from my home to place I no longer recognize. It’s so very unsettling and disturbing. But, being here and reading your words and the comments from like-minded readers is a comfort.
I adore outfit #4, especially the patterned socks with the ankle boots!
Thanks. I too am a fan of patterned socks with those black boots.
You are our neighbors to the north and so of course you have opinions. About half of us down here appreciate that and are working to find ways to bring light to the next four years. We are hanging on to the fact that the midterm elections will be in two years where hopefully those who don’t get what they thought they were going to get will join us in voting for those who support social justice causes. Enough of that though – you are right, that last outfit with the cream colors is lovely. It pops and makes a statement, which is what we should aim for in many ways (making a statement, that is).
Thanks, Maryellen. 🙂
Thank you for your support at a time when many of us are heartbroken at the choice our country has made. I’m a blue dot in a red state and am having a difficult time seeing many family members and friends gloat. I am grateful for the thoughtful, intelligent community your blog provides on a variety of subjects. I look forward to each and every post.
Thanks, Cathy.
I have been reading your blog for several years now but this will be the first time I’ve commented. I also thank you for your kind, insightful words (and feel free to flip on your blinker and cruise in any lane you like, Sue)! I too am struggling to make sense of what just happened with this election and like Maryellen mentioned above see a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel coming with the midterm elections in 2026. I plan to pay a lot less attention to my newsfeed and a lot more attention to the way I can interact with people and make a small difference.
I really like outfit #4!
Thanks, Gayle.
FWIW, I live in the U.S. and spent the bulk of last week organizing my makeup, working on some knitting projects, and reading cozy mysteries in order to keep going. So no, talking about fashion is not crazy.
To give you an idea of how I feel, this week I have to do a two-day prep for a colonoscopy on Friday, which sucks, but … it is still an improvement over last week.
Good luck with the colonoscopy. 🙂
Thank you Sue for your thoughts about the US election. As someone else pointed out, polite discourse is helpful and very welcome. I’m struggling to cope with what happened in my country last week. I am devastated and so worried about the future. I’m worried about the Ukranians, women, so many other people, the planet, and on and on.
I’m trying to figure out what will be a reasonable balance going forward that allows me to stay on top of what is going on in our country, without an hourly obsession over some of the noise. In the meantime, I’m trying to focus on some of my personal projects as a distraction. I’m doing lots of outdoor work, but will soon put my head in the closet. I need to get warm winter clothes out! It’s getting very chilly!
I really like the vintage bag. That is a good find. I’m a big fan of winter white and that fits the bill.
I’m glad that you’ve found some outfits for your gray pants and turned them into a positive purchase. Gray is such a classic color. Enjoy wearing them this fall and winter.
I echo your feelings, Dottie. Also trying to find a way to not pay too much attention to the doom and gloom nor to the people who seem to refuse to recognize what might happen.
I am in Ottawa, visiting family as of yesterday (November 11).
While I have yet to subscribe to your laudable Rule of Five, I am slowly cleaning out my closet. Your visit to the vintage clothing store on Florence Street caught my eye, and I am pleased to admit that I bought 5 fantastic items – three St. John pieces among them. What a
Beautiful shop with a delightful selection of pieces from “ my vintage” years.
Thank you for the recommendation. I guess 2025 will have to be my “Rule of Five” challenge!!
So glad you had such good luck, Jenny. But, you know, vintage and second hand pieces don’t count towards your five pieces. Only new ones. 🙂 They have a lovely selection at Bellwether’s don’t they? Last summer I tried on a couple of Jaegar pant suits from the nineties. Sadly the pants did not fit.
Sue, we regular readers know you write of far more than fashion, which I value your insights and experiences, along with the variety of subjects. You are right, the US election outcome will affect Canada and far beyond. I have voted every presidential election since turning 18; character, conduct, capability matters in making those decisions. As I turn 72, I do not comprehend how voters dismiss Trump’s lack of character and civility, wanton disregard for half our nation or laws. His hateful, divisive, profane rhetoric and disgusting behaviors render him unfit for the presidency. Unfortunately, President Biden’s declining abilities due to ageing made it abundantly clear he had to step aside quickly due to the upcoming election. Beyond heartbroken over the state of our country and the election outcome. Thank you for your concern!
Thanks, Nan. Very well said. Character is so important and seemed not to matter to many.
The Democrats ran one of the worst negative campaigns I can recall in my 60+ years of existence and the paid celebrity endorsements was beyond embarrassing.
On the plus side for those in mourning, it’s only four years if they can try to win it back with a better team and a better message to the masses.
I am very late to comment but I just became a grandmother for the 2nd time and we’ve been on baby sitting duty with the first grandchild. I am from the U.S. and am so disheartened by the outcome of the election. I literally cried. I just dont understand how so many people see this as the way for our coutry to move forward. You certainly wont lose me as a follower of your blog. I always enjoy you posts.
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